Celebrating Women’s Day with my family of feminists

So another Women’s Day rolls by. This year, this month, I think it fitting to celebrate the feminists in my life who are special to me, and who inspire me in different ways, at different moments of the year. The past month has been particularly significant for me in terms of the writing of two women in my family, and this post celebrates the sis-in-law, who is also friend, feminista and fun. Some time down the line I’ll write about the mother, who is a little difficult to describe in words, which is why I need more time to mull over her. chuckle.

Anindita won the Toto Funds The Arts (TFA) award for creative writing last month in Bangalore. Both awards in this section went to Bongs in Bengaluru, which is interesting enough in itself, but even more so, as Ani - and the rest of us - saw it, was that the award was presented by Amitav Ghosh. Now if that isn’t a matter for joint celebration and collective swooning, I don’t know what is. :-)

Anindita’s poetry is archived at her poetry blog, but here’s a taste of her crisp craftsmanship. I chose this one because it speaks of a woman with a history and a future different from ours, of a woman who “bears the hollows in deep places”. Women’s Day is about celebration, but it is also about consciousness, that sharp poet’s eye for life - for a woman’s living - that can otherwise pass us by in a mundane flurry. Thank you for that watchfulness, and your own, bright, particular voice, Ani.

<meta content="OpenOffice.org 2.3 (Linux)" name="GENERATOR" /> <style type="text/css"> <!-- @page { margin: 0.79in } P { margin-bottom: 0.08in } --> </style></p> <blockquote> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2"><strong>Parvati</strong><br /> <em>the migrant’s wife</em></font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">when the wind comes down from the hills<br /> and palm trees fling their leaves about<br /> like Sufi saints stepped off the edge, </font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">she lies on a mat on the floor,<br /> arms out,</font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">and listens to coconuts falling on the roof<br /> like tough-shelled meteors.</font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">in her, quiet,<br /> is the cry of marauding elephants<br /> grey. heavy. it flattens her. </font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">Parvati, woman of the foothills,<br /> woman of hard hands and bright teeth,<br /> woman who endlessly waits. </font></font></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">woman whose waiting is a wound<br /> that will not let skin<br /> close over it<br /> </font></font><br /> <font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">a wound full of tree, grass, rain<br /> and the smell of mud<br /> </font></font><br /> <font face="Arial, sans-serif"><font size="2">woman who bears the hollows in deep places<br /> but feels herself break<br /> with the slow burn, the stench in the night<br /> of things growing old.</font></font></p></blockquote> <p style="margin-bottom: 0in" class="western"> <!-- <rdf:RDF xmlns:rdf="http://www.w3.org/1999/02/22-rdf-syntax-ns#" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:trackback="http://madskills.com/public/xml/rss/module/trackback/"> <rdf:Description rdf:about="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/03/09/celebrating-womens-day-with-my-family-of-feminists/" dc:identifier="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/03/09/celebrating-womens-day-with-my-family-of-feminists/" dc:title="Celebrating Women’s Day with my family of feminists" trackback:ping="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/03/09/celebrating-womens-day-with-my-family-of-feminists/trackback/" /> </rdf:RDF> --> </div><!-- END POST-ENTRY --> </div><!-- END POST-CONTENT --> </div><!-- END-CONTAINER --> <div class="post-header"> <h3 class="post-date">2008 03 09</h3> <p class="post-categories"><a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/category/feminism/" title="View all posts in Gender/Sexuality and Feminism" rel="category tag">Gender/Sexuality and Feminism</a><br/> <a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/category/india/" title="View all posts in India" rel="category tag">India</a><br/> <a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/category/poetry/" title="View all posts in Poetry/Music" rel="category tag">Poetry/Music</a><br/> <a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/category/bangalore/" title="View all posts in Bangalore/Karnataka" rel="category tag">Bangalore/Karnataka</a><br/> <a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/category/writing/" title="View all posts in Writing" rel="category tag">Writing</a></p> <p class="post-comments"><a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/03/09/celebrating-womens-day-with-my-family-of-feminists/#comments" title="Comment on Celebrating Women's Day with my family of feminists">Comments (3)</a></p> <p class="post-permalink"><a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/03/09/celebrating-womens-day-with-my-family-of-feminists/" title="Permalink to Celebrating Women’s Day with my family of feminists" rel="permalink">Permalink</a></p> </div><!-- END POST-FOOTER --> </div><!-- END POST --> <div id="post-117" class="post"> <div class="post-container"> <div class="post-content"> <h2 class="post-title"><a href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/02/19/tagged-tugged/" title="Permalink to Tagged. Tugged." rel="bookmark">Tagged. Tugged.</a></h2> <div class="post-entry"> <p>So <a target="_blank" href="http://blackmamba.wordpress.com/2008/01/30/a-smart-tag/">Black Mamba</a> tagged me the other day:</p> <blockquote><p>Post 5 links to 5 of your previously written posts. The posts have to relate to the 5 key words given (family, friend, yourself, your love, anything you like). Tag 5 other friends to do this meme. Try to tag at least 2 new acquaintances (if not, your current blog buddies will do) so that you get to know them each a little bit better.</p></blockquote> <p>I was determined to do this, not only because I like Black Mamba (and I do), but because I had to prove <a target="_blank" href="http://nomologic.blogspot.com/">Tabula Rasa</a> wrong; he said BM wouldn’t get a cheep out of me (this childish tit-a-tat has, in fact, gone on since we were about ten. I love it.).</p> <p>Result: near failure. Not because of my lack of output - though it certainly could be a lot more consistent than it is now - but because I rarely seem to write about anything other than politics and the big bad world outside. Of course, there’s a lot of me in there - the personal is political and vice-versa - but not in ways that are necessarily familiar or familial. sigh. Looking back, I think it was because I was determined, when I started out, not to make this a blog of the kind that led the blog-o-boom: the vicarious exploration of other people’s private lives and lesions. Frankly, I found that sort of blogging both terrifying and self-indulgent. I also felt I had nothing to offer of value online, that could remotely interest a set of unknown readers. Ashwin persuaded me otherwise; a lot of his argument had to do with the description of the blogging community he comes from: the techies. Clearly there was a space for blogging about one’s interests, one’s passions, rather than about oneself.</p> <p>I realise now that I have - somewhere along the way - gone to the other extreme of the pendulum and am dangling hopelessly from an oblique position of self-denial. I find that many of the blogsters I read, write about themselves and theirs with humour and insight. I kid you not: I *like* reading them! If I don’t see these blogs as self-indulgent, is there possibly space for me to sneak back in a bit of me and mine into this blog? Black Mamba, you didn’t think you’d lead to an orgy of reflexivity now, did ya??</p> <p>With this long preamble, here’s my meagre offering for the tag.</p> <p>Family: A bit of a stretch, but to my extended family in <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2006/11/01/janmadinnada-subhashagalu-karnataka/">Raichur</a>. Also a cheeky <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2007/06/28/organic-phew-el-er/">aside</a> to my pun-tashtic family (not really a post at all, but wothehell, I love <a target="_blank" href="http://xkcd.com/">xkcd</a>).</p> <p>Friend: about a friend in Gujarat, and her struggles with <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2007/06/07/the-fear-of-fundamentalisms/">fundamentalisms</a>.</p> <p>Yourself: a post about ‘<a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2007/03/12/being-an-action-hero/">being an action hero</a>‘. Also my previous stab at being <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2006/08/18/bag-it-tag-it-sell-it-to-the-butcher-at-the-store/">tagged</a>.</p> <p>Your love: music and poetry. Unsurprisingly, a post about <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2006/11/28/caste-untouched/">Gangubai Hangal</a> that conveys both my awe-struck admiration and her comments on caste. And a tribute to <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2006/08/01/flower-and-fire-a-tribute-to-kaifi-azmi/">Kaifi Azmi</a>.</p> <p>Anything you like: a whimsical post on <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2007/10/15/durga-ma-vs-jk-rowling-mahishasura-mardhini/">Durga Puja and JK Rowling</a>. And a diatribe against the <a target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2006/07/27/news-bhi-kabhi-news-thi/">news</a> in India today.</p> <p>…and I tag those I haven’t tagged before: <a target="_blank" href="http://aninditasengupta.wordpress.com/">Anindita</a> (in the spirit of disclosure and familial-ity, my gorgeous sis-in-law who normally tags _me_), <a target="_blank" href="http://hemanginigupta.blogspot.com/">Mangs</a>, <a target="_blank" href="http://bodypolitics.blogspot.com/">Lalit</a> and (relatively new) blog buddies: <a target="_blank" href="http://silkboard.wordpress.com/">Pranav</a> and <a target="_blank" href="http://bangalorebuzzz.blogspot.com/">Suzanna</a> (whose blog I promised some time ago I would explore, and this is a great way to begin!). </p> <!-- <rdf:RDF xmlns:rdf="http://www.w3.org/1999/02/22-rdf-syntax-ns#" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:trackback="http://madskills.com/public/xml/rss/module/trackback/"> <rdf:Description rdf:about="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/02/19/tagged-tugged/" dc:identifier="http://blogs.sanmathi.org/anasuya/2008/02/19/tagged-tugged/" dc:title="Tagged. 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